friendship
Do you guys think that a true friendship can exist between a man and a woman? I was wondering about this, because often I've noticed that when you are good friends with someone of the opposite sex it happens too often that one of the two has (or develops) feelings for the other. I was thinking about this because yet another friend made a stupid remark, that really made me wonder whether ever these neutral relations exist or not.. (if anyone wonders whether I am talking about you, no I am not :P) I mean, I have been friends with friends of my boyfriends, but that is never the same as developing a friendship with someone you chose because you connect with each other. Or does this connection always mean that you already have feelings for the other? What does "a connection" mean to start with? I mean, sometimes I get reallly bummed out if I notice that a friend is actually going for something else.. And ofcourse it also sometimes happened the other way around.. Hmmm hahaha now I forgot where I was going.. Nowhere perhaps.. it was more just a thought.. What friendship really is..
Sometimes I just get sad to lose people I don't really want to lose (not even really related to this topic)
posted by Xiricou @ 10/09/2006 06:03:00 pm
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*denkt diep na*
I spose I got a couple real no-nothing-weird-feelings-involved-male-friends. But then again, I never had much female friends anyway so I had to stick with guys from the start. And yes there's a lot of dubious have-been-in-love-with-could-be-in-love-with-dunno-what-can-happen-friends. More than never-thought-bout-it-adn-never-will friends.
I do remember life got more complicated around 15 when all this feelings and sex stuff got involved and it made me loose some friends I thought were good friends.
Conclusion: I think it's possible but risky. On the other hand: I'd like to know what happens in non-heterosexual worlds :p . Might be even worse, as far as I got glimpses....oi! We shouldn't be complaining!
Well I've never completely succeeded in this male-female friendship, as we already talked about. Almost all could not stop themself from making a move, and yes it bothers me... Hmm Robert is the only one that never made a move (and he is single)... ( or maybe I haven't noticed untill now)maybe I should only choose male-friends that already have a relationship, much safer, I hope... But it must be possible, it simply must.
mmm ja
terugkijkend op voorgaande man/vrouw vriendschappen... een deel daarvan is zeker op een bepaald moment (bijna) op de klippen gelopen door een frustrerende actie van de ander ("ik ben altijd al verliefd op je geweest...") AAARRGHH!
Maar er waren ook vriendschappen die prima gingen. Zoals ...euh bijvoorbeeld eh... mmm. Misschien toch niet zoveel. Iedere keer als ik een naam in mijn hoofd krijg, denk ik plotseling dat er op z'n minst wel 1 keer een soort van eenzijdige aantrekkingskracht was ergens. Daarna of daarvoor ging het altijd beter.
Nu vind ik het anders. Veel mensen om me heen zijn niet single meer, en dan lijkt het allemaal opeens heel gemakkelijk. Mannelijk vrienden zat nu, en (bijna) geen enkel ongemakkelijk moment. En geen enkele confessions meer. aaaah. heerlijk.
Sja ik kan nu nog ff zeggen.. het werkt idd NOOIT.. Zelfs mensen met wie ik nog niet eens een intense vriendschap heb, maar net een beginnende, beginnen al over hoe ik met ze flirt (?!) omdat ze stiekem geinteresseerd zijn ofzo.. Mannen..echt... Once again disappointed..
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